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±³È¸ ȯ°æ¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ÀÇ ¸ñȸ»ó´ã (Pastoral Counseling in Church Settings)
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Chapter 2
Pastoral Counseling in Church Settings
(±³È¸ ȯ°æ¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ÀÇ ¸ñȸ»ó´ã)
I. The Nature and Characteristics of Pastoral Counseling
(¸ñȸ»ó´ãÀÇ ¼º °Ý°ú Ư¼º)
(1) Introduction (¼·Ð): An overview of the office of the pastor: Prophetic, Priestly, and Kingly office of Pastor and their application in ministerial setting (¸ñ»ç Á÷ºÐÀÇ °³°ü: ¸ñ»çÁ÷ºÐÀÇ ¼±Áö ÀÚÁ÷, Á¦»çÀåÁ÷, ¿ÕÁ÷°ú ¸ñȸ ÇöÀå¿¡ÀÇ Àû¿ë)
(2) Basic Tasks of a Pastor(¸ñ»çÀÇ ±âº»ÀÓ¹«): Pastoral mandate (¸ñȸÀû ¸í·É/Àǹ«)
1) Primary tasks: Pastor as Minister of the Word-- Faithful handling of the Word of God (¸»¾¸ÀÇ »ç¿ªÀڷμÀÇ ¸ñ»ç--Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¸»¾¸À» ½Å½ÇÇÏ°Ô Ãë±ÞÇØ¾ß ÇÔ)
2) Secondary tasks: Pastor as the servant-leader of the community of the people of God--Ministering the need of people (Á¾ÀÇ ÀÚ¼¼ ·Î¼ÀÇ Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¹é¼ºÀÇ ÁöµµÀÚ--Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¹é¼ºÀÇ ÇÊ¿ä °ü¸®)
3) Auxiliary tasks: Pastor as a stand-by all round pivot--Guidance, counseling, reference, etc. (¸ðµç ¸é¿¡ ÁßÃß°¡ µÇ´Â »ó¼³ ÁöµµÀÚ·ÎÀÇ ¸ñ»ç--Áöµµ, »ó´ã, ÁßÀç)
(3) Characteristics of Pastoral counsel in the context of the pastor as minister of the Word (¸»¾¸ÀÇ »ç¿ªÀڷμ ¸ñ»çÀÇ »óȲ¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ÀÇ ¸ñȸ»ó´ãÀÇ Æ¯¼º)
1) Kerygmatic Counsel (±³ÈÆÀû »ó´ã):
¨ç Application of the Word in preaching and worship (¼³±³¿Í ¿¹¹è¿¡ÀÇ ¸»¾¸ÀÇ Àû¿ë)
¨è In public and global setting (°øÁß »çȸ¿Í ¼¼°èÀû ȯ°æ)
¨é Cosmic orientation (¿ìÁÖÀû Àû¿ë): Macrocosmic and microcosmic concern in the context of the gospel and the salvation of Christ (º¹À½°ú ±×¸®½ºµµÀÇ ±¸¿øÀÇ »óȲÀ¸·Î¼ÀÇ °Å½ÃÀû ¹× ¹Ì½ÃÀû °ü½É)
2) Prophetic Counsel (¼±ÁöÀÚÀû »ó´ã):
¨ç Proclamatory and directive decree based upon careful discernment of the Word/Will of God (Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¸»¾¸°ú Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¶æÀÇ ÁÖÀÇ ±íÀº ºÐº°¿¡ ±âÃÊÇÑ ¼±Æ÷¿Í Áö½ÃÀûÀÎ ¸í·É)
¨è Discernment and interpretation of world events in the context of eschatology (Á¾¸»·ÐÀû »óȲ¿¡¼ÀÇ ¼¼°è »ç°ÇµéÀÇ ºÐº°°ú Çؼ®¹®Á¦)
¨é Explanatory nature and speaking of the things to come in the context of teleological plan of God/Life objectives and purpose of life (¸ñÀû·ÐÀûÀÎ Çϳª´ÔÀÇ °èȹ/»ýÀÇ ¸ñÀûÀÇ »óȲ¿¡¼ ´Ù°¡¿À´Â »ç½Çµé(Á¾¸»·ÐÀû »ç½Çµé)¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Çؼ®»óÀÇ ¼º°Ý°ú À̾߱â)
3) Conciliatory Counsel (ÈÇØÀû »ó´ã)
¨ç Administration and application of the Word of God in personal and interpersonal life (°³ÀÎÀû, °³ÀÎ »óÈ£°£ÀÇ »óȲ¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¸»¾¸ÀÇ °ü¸®¿Í Àû¿ë¹®Á¦)
¨è Oriented toward the liberation and mutual conciliation in the context of microcosmic(personal) and macrocosmic(universal) relation (°³ÀÎÀû, ¿ìÁÖÀû °ü°èÀÇ »óȲ¿¡¼ÀÇ ÀÚÀ¯¿Í »óÈ£ÈÇØ ÁöÇâ)
¨é Its purpose to establish and to realize the fellowship which was accomplished in the salvation of Christ (±×¸®½ºµµÀÇ ±¸¿øÀ¸·Î ¼ºÃëµÈ Ä£±³°ü°è¸¦ ¼¼¿ì°í ½ÇÇöÇÒ ¸ñÀû)
4) Pastoral counsel and pastoral counseling (¸ñȸÀû ±Ç°í¿Í ¸ñȸ»ó´ã): a definitive categorical difference (Á¦ÇÑÀû ¹üÁÖÀÇ Â÷ÀÌ). role confusion of pastor and psychologist/therapist (¸ñ»ç¿Í ½É¸®ÇÐÀÚ/Ä¡·á»ç¿ÍÀÇ ¿ªÇÒ È¥µ¿)
II. Prerequisites in Pastoral Counseling (¸ñȸ»ó´ãÀÇ Çʼö¿ä°Ç)
(1) Spiritual prerequisites (¿µÀûÀÎ Çʼö¿ä°Ç)
1) Relation to God, the Creator and Christ, the Savior (âÁ¶ÁÖ Çϳª´Ô°ú ±¸¼ÓÁÖ ±×¸®½ºµµ¿¡ °ü·ÃÇÏ¿©)
2) Relation to God, the Holy Spirit (the Comforter) (º¸Çý»ç ¼º·É Çϳª´Ô¿¡ °ü·ÃÇÏ¿©)
3) Relation to the Word of God (Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¸»¾¸¿¡ °ü·ÃÇÏ¿©)
4) Relation to Worldly power/the power of the Darkness (¼¼»ó ¾îµÒÀÇ ±Ç¼¼¿¡ °ü·ÃÇÏ¿©)
(2) Physical and Character Prerequisites (À°Ã¼Àû ¼º°ÝÀû Çʼö ¿ä°Ç)
1) A healthy body and a sound mind (°Ç°ÇÑ ¸ö, °ÇÀüÇÑ Á¤½Å)
2) A strong and robust character (°ÇÏ°í °ÇÀüÇÑ ¼º°Ý)
3) A broad open heart for others (ŸÀο¡°Ô ³Ð°í ¿¸° ¸¶À½)
4) Experienced the divine touch(of Truth, reality, and love) and divine healing(forgiveness and wholeness) (Áø¸®, ½ÇÀç. »ç¶ûÀÇ ¿µÀû ÅÍÄ¡¿Í ¿ë¼ ¿ÂÀüÇÔÀÇ Çϳª´ÔÀÇ Ä¡·á)
5) Incarnational reality of the Word in personal life (°³ÀÎ »ýÈ°¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ ¸»¾¸ÀÇ ÈÀ°È)
(3) Preparatory and Educational Requisites (¿¹ºñÀû, ±³À°Àû Çʼö¿ä°Ç)
1) Formal teaching/education and informal knowledge (wisdom) (°ø½Ä±³À°°ú ºñ°ø½Ä Áö½Ä(ÁöÇý)
2) Professionalism and vocational appeal (Àü¹®ÁÖÀÇ¿Í Á÷¾÷ÀûÀÎ °Í¿¡ È£¼Ò): Dedication to the profession of helping others (ŸÀεéÀ» µ½´Â Àü¹®ºÐ¾ß¿¡ Çå½Å)
3) Ecclesiastical endorsement and accreditation (±³È¸Àû ½ÂÀΰú Àΰ¡)
4) Knowing personal limits (°³ÀÎÀûÀÎ ÇÑ°è): self and the client (ÀڽŰú ¼Õ´Ô)
(4) Moral and Ethical Requisites (µµ´öÀû, À±¸®Àû Çʼö¿ä°Ç)
1) Practice within the context of the church (±³È¸ »óȲ¿¡¼ ¿¬½À)
2) Deontological emphases and honestly (ºñº»Ã¼·ÐÀû °Á¶¿Í Á¤Á÷)
3) Professional codes: Professionalism, confidentiality, accountability to God and also to civil and professional sanctioning authorities (Çϳª´Ô°ú ½Ã¹Î°ú Àü¹®ÀûÀÎ Àΰ¡ ´ç±¹¿¡ ´ëÇÑ¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Àü¹®¼º, ½Åºù¼º, Ã¥ÀÓ¼º)
III. Clients in Pastoral Counseling (¸ñȸ»ó´ãÀÇ ´ë»óÀÚ)
(1) People of God in General (ÀϹÝÀûÀ¸·Î Çϳª´ÔÀÇ ¹é¼º)
(2) Church members, local, denominational (±³È¸¸â¹ö, Áö¿ª, ±³´ÜÀû): Advantage of pitfall (ÀÌÁ¡°ú ÇÔÁ¤)
(3) Clergymen and church staff and workers (¼ºÁ÷ÀÚ¿Í ±³È¸ ½ºÅÂÇÁ¿Í Á÷¿ø)
(4) Problem in counseling non-Christian (Non-Church member) (ºÒ½ÅÀÚ »ó´ã¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ÀÇ ¹®Á¦Á¡)
IV. Practical Issues in Pastoral Counseling (¸ñȸ»ó´çÀÇ ½ÇÁ¦Àû À̽´)
(1) Pastoral counseling VERSUS Spiritual building and Evangelism (¸ñȸ»ó´ã ´ë ¿µÀû ¹«Àå°ú Àüµµ)
1) the use of Scriptures in counseling (»ó´ã¿¡ ¼º¼ ÀÌ¿ë)
2) Prayer in counseling process (»ó´ã ÁøÇàÁß ±âµµ)
3) Social pressure as a counseling method (»ó´ã ¹æ¹ýÀ¸·Î¼ÀÇ »çȸÀû ¾Ð·Â)
4) Repentance and confession in counseling process (»ó´ã¼öÇà Áß È¸°³¿Í °í¹é)
(2) Collecting fees in pastoral practices (¸ñȸ»ó´ã ½Ç½À Áß ºñ¿ë¸ð±Ý)
1) Formal fees (°ø½Ä ºñ¿ë)
2) Free offering (Çå±Ý)
3) Personal gifts (°³ÀÎ Çå±Ý)
4) informal favors (ºñ°ø½Ä È£ÀÇ)
(3) Problem of professional confidentiality (Àü¹®ÀûÀÎ ½Åºù¼º ¹®Á¦)
1) Legality of pastoral confidentiality (¸ñȸ ½Åºù¼ºÀÇ ¹ýÀû °ßÁö)
2) Problem of betrayal of confidentiality in preaching (¼³±³¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ ½Åºù¼ºÀÇ ºÎ½Ç ¹®Á¦)
3) Accountability of confidentiality (½Åºù¼ºÀÇ Ã¥ÀÓ)
(4) Problem of selecting client and discriminatory nature of treatment (°í°´ ¼±Á¤°ú Ä¡·áÀÇ Â÷º°È ¼º°ÝÀÇ ¹®Á¦)
1) The right of pastor to select client (°í°´ ¼±Á¤¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ¸ñ»çÀÇ ±Ç¸®)
2) Selecting client(°í°´ ¼±Á¤): Counselor-client matching (»ó´ãÀÚ °í°´ ¸ÅĪ)
3) Treatment methods(Ä¡·á¹æ¹ý): Counselor-method matching (»ó´ãÀÚ ¹æ¹ý)
4) Perspective conflict(¿¹»óµÈ °¥µî): Pastor and other counseling profession (¸ñ»ç¿Í ´Ù¸¥ »ó´ã Àü¹®°¡)
(5) Referral in pastoral counseling(¸ñȸ»ó´ã¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ÀÇ ÀÇŹ).
1) Church as referral center (À§Å¹ ¼¾ÅͷμÀÇ ±³È¸)
2) Conflict of interest (ÀÌÇØ°ü°èÀÇ °¥µî)
3) Pastoral knowledgeability of counseling professionals (»ó´ã Àü¹®°¡µéÀÇ ¸ñȸ»ó Áö½Ä´É·Â)
V. Counseling in the Church (±³È¸¿¡¼ÀÇ »ó´ã)
1) The kinds of church members (»ó´ãÀ» À§ÇÑ ±³È¸ ¸â¹öÀÇ ºÎ·ù ºÐ·ù)
2) Counseling for the difficult people (´Ù·ç±â ±î´Ù·Î¿î ±³ÀÎÀ» À§ÇÑ »ó´ã)
3) Counseling for the impossible people (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÇ ±³ÀÎÀ» À§ÇÑ »ó´ã)
VI. Example of Jesus Chriest (¿¹¼ö ±×¸®½ºµµÀÇ »ó´ã »ç·Ê / ¸ñȸ»ó´ãÀÇ ¼º¼Àû ½Ç·Ê: »ç¸¶¸®¾Æ ¿©ÀΰúÀÇ »ó´ã»ç·Ê, ¿ä 4:5-25)
II. Dealing with Difficult People (´Ù·ç±â ±î´Ù·Î¿î »ç¶÷ÀÇ °ü¸®)
1. Types of Different People (±î´Ù·Î¿î »ç¶÷ÀÇ À¯Çü)
2. Understanding People (ÀÌÇØ·Â)
3. Personal Power £ The Key to Strategy (ÀΰÝÀûÀÎ Èû- Àü·«ÀÇ ¿¼è)
(1) II Corinthians 12:9-10
(2) Matthew 28:18-19
(3) Types of Power (ÈûÀÇ À¯Çü)
1) Reward (º¸»ó)
2) Coercive (°¿ä)
3) Position (Á÷À§)
4) Charisma (Ä«¸®½º¸¶)
5) Expert (Àü¹®°¡)
6) Representative (´ë¸®ÀÎ)
(4) Pastors like expert power too much (¸ñ»ç´Â Áö³ªÄ¡°Ô Àü¹®°¡ÀÇ ÈûÀ» ÁÁ¾ÆÇÑ´Ù)
III. Impossible People (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÇ »ç¶÷)
1. Found in Scripture (¼º¼Àû ±Ù°Å)
(1) Acts 20:29-30
(2) Ephesians 6:12
(3) II Timothy 2:16-17
(4) Romans 16:17-18
I Corinthians 5:3, 5, 6
(5) Titus 3:10-11
(6) Proverbs 26:4-6
Proverbs 13:16
Proverbs 18:7
(7) Matthew 7:6
2. Characteristics of Impossible People (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÎ »ç¶÷ÀÇ Æ¯¼º)
(1) Impossible (ºÒ°¡´É¼º)
1) to live with (µ¿Á¸)
2) help (ÇùÁ¶)
3) satisfy (¸¸Á·)
4) control (Á¶Á¤)
5) reason with (»ç·ÁºÐº°)
6) to understand (ÀÌÇØ)
7) keep quiet (ħ¹¬)
8) avoid (ȸÇÇ)
(2) They (±×µéÀº...)
1) destructive (Æı«Àû)
2) hostile (Àû´ëÀû)
3) selfish (À̱âÀû)
4) evil (»ç¾ÇÇÑ)
5) perverted (º¯ÅÂÀû)
6) of the world (¼¼»óÀû)
7) negative (ºÎÁ¤Àû)
8) useless (¹«¿ëÇÑ)
9) irrational (ºÒÇÕ¸®Àû)
3. Identification of Impossible People (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÎ »ç¶÷ÀÇ ½Å¿ø)
(1) Initial question (óÀ½ Áú¹®)
Are they disruptive, irrational, going out of way to create trouble, insatiable, concerned for minor issues, avoiding risk, selfish?
(±×µéÀº ºÐ¿ÀûÀ̸ç, ºÒÇÕ¸®ÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µé·Î¼, ºÒÆíÀ» ÀÏÀ¸Å°´Â ±æ·Î ³ª°¡¸ç, »ç¼ÒÇÑ ¹®Á¦µé¿¡ ºÒ¸¸°ú °ü½ÉÀ» °®°í À§±â¸¦ ÇÇÇÏ·Á´Â À̱âÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µéÀΰ¡?)
(2) Personality traits (Àΰݼº)
1) Negative self concept (ºÎÁ¤ÀûÀÎ Àڱ⠰³³ä)
2) Strong self love (°ÇÑ Àڱ⠻ç¶û)
3) Rigid (¾ö°Ý¼º)
4) Authoritarian (±ÇÀ§)
(3) Psychologically (½É¸®ÇÐÀûÀ¸·Î)
1) Paranoid (ÆíÁý¼º)
2) Anti-social (¹Ý»çȸÀû)
(4) Some Red Flags (Àû½ÅÈ£)
(5) Early warning signs (Á¶±â°æº¸ ½ÅÈ£)
(6) Later warnings (Èı⠰溸)
4. Dealing with Impossible People (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÎ »ç¶÷ÀÇ °ü¸®)
(1) General Response (ÀϹÝÀû ¹ÝÀÀ)
(2) How to act when meeting with them (±×µéÀ» ¸¸³µÀ» ¶§ÀÇ Çൿ¹æ¹ý)
(3) When they go dormant (±×µéÀÌ ÈÞÁö»óÅÂÀÌ ÀÖÀ» ¶§)
(4) Preventing Impossible People (±¸Á¦ºÒ´ÉÀÎ »ç¶÷¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ´ëó¹æ¾È)
IV. Viewing and Assessing Conflict (°¥µîÀÇ °ßÇØ¿Í Æò°¡)
(1) Three Views (¼¼ °¡Áö °ßÇØ)
1) The System View (Á¶Á÷ °ßÇØ)
2) The Actor View (ÇàÀ§ÀÚ °ßÇØ)
3) Bi-functional Views (ÀÌÁß ±â´É¼º °ßÇØ)
(2) Assessing Conflict (°¥µîÀÇ Æò°¡)
1) Danger (À§Çè)
2) Destructive (Æı«Àû)
3) Marks of destructive conflict (Æı«Àû °¥µîÀÇ Ç¥½Ä)
4) Marks of productive (»ý»ê¼ºÀÇ Ç¥½Ä)
5) Difficulty of Assessment (Æò°¡ÀÇ ¾î·Á¿ò)
6) Importance of Correct Assessment (¿Ã¹Ù¸¥ Æò°¡ÀÇ Á߿伺)
(3) Indirect Conflict (Á÷Á¢ °¥µî)
(4) Emotional and Subjective Conflicts (Á¤¼Àû, ÁÖ°üÀû °¥µî)
(5) How to get Power (ÈûÀÇ Ãëµæ ¹æ¹ý)
1) Ephesians 6:10, 11, 13 - Standing
2) Ephesians 6:14-18 - The Whole Armor of God (Àü½Å°©ÁÖ)
4. The Key to Strategy - Confrontation (Àü·«ÀÇ ¿¼è - ´ë¸é)
(1) Matthew 18:15-17
(2) How to confront?
5. Styles of Conflict Management
(°¥µî°ü¸®ÀÇ À¯Çü)
(1) Five Styles on two factors (µÎ ¿ä¼Òµé¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ´Ù¼¸ °¡Áö À¯Çü)
1) Relationship and Task (°ü°è¼º°ú ÀÏ)
2) Styles (À¯Çü)
¨ç Avoiding (ȸÇÇ)
¨è Accommodation (ÀûÀÀ)
¨é Competition (°æÀï)
¨ê Compromise (ŸÇù)
¨ë Collaboration (Çù·Â)
3) Relationship Style (°ü°è¼º À¯Çü)
4) Conflict Rituals (°¥µî ÀǽÄ)
5) Power as a Style (À¯ÇüÀÇ Èû)
6. Strategies or Tactics (Àü·« ȤÀº Àü¼ú)
(1) Avoidance (ȸÇÇ)
(2) Escalation (´Ü°èÀû È®´ë)
(3) Maintenance (À¯Áö)
(4) Reduction (°¨¼Ò
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CONFLICT MANAGEMENT
1. Talk it over - Listen
2. Walk away
3. Say, "I am sorry"
4. Do something else
5. Take turns
6. Share
7. ignore
(When you have tried at least 3 of the above)
8. Ask for help
»ó´ã ½É¸®ÇÐ
(COUNSELING PSYCHOLOGY)
Written by
Dr. Paul Boo. Y. Jang
(M.Div, Th.M, D.Min, Th.D)
ÇÑ¹Ì ±³È¸¼ºÀå ¿¬±¸¿ø
(KOREAN AMERICAN CHURCH GROWTH INSTITUTE)
CONTENTS
Chapter 1: Counseling Profession and Church Ministry, A theological Foundation for Counseling Psychology
Chapter 2: Pastoral Counseling in Church Settings (±Ý¹ø °ÀÇ ºÎºÐ)
Chapter 3: Understanding Human Problems
Chapter 4: Management and Treatment of Psychological Problems
Chapter 5: Counseling and Therapeutic Process I: Diagnosis
Chapter 6: Counseling and Therapeutic Process II: Practice
Chapter 7: Child, Youth, Marriage, Family Counseling, and Counseling of the Aging
Chapter 8: Therapeutic Method and Counseling Models
Chapter 9: Methodological Application and the Use of Scriptures in Counseling and Therapy
Chapter 10: Basic Concepts and Terminology in Counseling Psychology and Psychotherapy
Chapter 7
Child, Youth, Marriage, Family Counselling, Counselling
of the Aging, and Counselling of the Church Member
(À¯³â, û¼Ò³â, ±âÈ¥ °¡Á¤ »ó´ã, ³ëÀÎ »ó´ã°ú ±³È¸ ¸â¹ö »ó´ã)
I. Preliminary Remarks: Differentiation between theraphy, guidance and instructional training in Child, Youth, Marriage, family counselling, and Counselling of Church member. (À¯³â, û¼Ò³â, ±âÈ¥, °¡Á¤, ±³ÀεéÀÇ Ä¡·á, Áöµµ, ±³À°ÈÆ·Ã »çÀÌÀÇ Â÷ÀÌ)
(1) Perspective difference (½Ã°¢Àû Â÷ÀÌ)
(2) Methodological difference (¹æ¹ý·ÐÀÇ Â÷ÀÌ)
(3) Situational and material difference (»óȲÀû, ¹°Àû Â÷ÀÌ)
II. Child Counseling (¾î¸°ÀÌ »ó´ã)
1. Problems in Childe Development (¾î¸°ÀÌ ¹ßÀ°ÀÇ ¹®Á¦)
(1) Problems in Habitual behavior (½À°üÀû ÇൿÀÇ ¹®Á¦)
1) Eating disorder (½Ä»ç¹«ÀýÁ¦): Eating too much(°ú½Ä: Bulimia); self-induced anorexia nervosa (refusal to eat/½Ä»ç°ÅºÎ), and pica (chronic ingestion of inedible substance/¸ÔÀ»¼ö ¾ø´Â ½Ä¹° ¼·Ãë)
2) Sleeping disorder (¼ö¸éÀå¾Ö): Sleepwalking and nigh terror (¸ùÀ¯º´°ú ¹ãÀÇ °øÆ÷Áõ)
3) Socialization disorder (»ç±³Àå¾Ö): Xenophobia (stranger/¿ÜÀÎ ±âÇÇÁõ), kleptomania (steal/µµº®), etc.
4) Undesirable behavior (¹Ù¶÷Á÷ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀº Çൿ):
¨ç Enuresis (Bed wetting/¾ß´¢Áõ): Chronic enuresis or regressive bladder control/¹æ±¤ ÄÁÆ®·Ñ ÅðÈ (regressive enuresis)
¨è Undesirable motor habit (¹Ù¶÷Á÷ ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀº Àڹ߽À°ü): Tics (periodic involuntary movement of muscles groups/ÁÖ±âÀû ºÒ¼öÀû ±ÙÀ° ¿îµ¿/¾È¸é°æ·Ã); Nail-biting and Thumb-sucking; compulsive-obsessive behavior (¼ÕÅé ¹°¾î¶â±â, ¾öÁö¼Õ°¡¶ô »¡±â, °¹Ú°ü³äÀÇ Çൿ)
¨é Speech disorder (¾ð¾îÀå¾Ö): Delayed speech and stuttering (¸»ÀÌ ´À¸²°ú ´õµëÀÌ)
(2) Adjustment disorder (Á¶Á¤Àå¾Ö): À°Ã¼Àû º¯È³ª ȯ°æÀû º¯È·ÎºÎÅÍ ¿¬À¯
1) Temperamental disoder (±âÁúÀû Àå¾Ö)
2) Fragile, fear, withdrawal (³ª¾à, µÎ·Á¿ò, ö¼ö)
3) Sex role confusion (¼ºÀû ¿ªÇÒÀÇ È¥µ¿)
4) Autism (ÀÚÆóÁõ)
(3) Developmental disorder (¹ßÀ°ÀÚ¾Ö):
1) Physical developmental problem (À°Á¦Àû ¹ßÀ°¹®Á¦): Slow growth, growing pain/Àú¼Ó¼ºÀå, ¼ºÀå°íÅë)
2) Mental (Á¤½Å): Slow start and premature development of mental ability (Á¤½Å·Â¿¡ ÀÖ¾î¼ ´ÊÀº Ãâ¹ß°ú Á¶¼÷ ¹ßÀ°)
3) Social (»ç±³) : Lake of social skills; premature socialization (»ç±³ ±â¼úÀÇ °áÇÌ; Á¶¼÷ÇÑ »ç±³¼º)
(4) Emotional disturbance (Á¤¼ Àå¾Ö): Childhood Neuroses (À¯³â ³ëÀÌ·ÎÁ¦)
1) Over anxious reaction (ºÒ¾È¿¡ ´ëÇÑ °úÀ×¹ÝÀÀ): Overt-expression of anxiety (ºÒ¾È¿¡ ´ëÇÑ °øÇ¥), timidity (¼Ò½É/°Ì¸¹À½), over-dependency (°úµµÇÑ ÀÇÁ¸), and need of constant reassurance (Áï¼® ÀçÈ®ÀÎÀÇ ÇÊ¿ä)
2) Withdrawal reaction (ö¼ö ¹ÝÀÛ¿ë): Day-dreaming and escapism (¹éÀϸù°ú Çö½Ç µµÇÇÁÖÀÇ)
3) Phobia (ÀÚÆóÁõ): Morbid occupation with fear stimulus, extra effort to avoid stimulus (ºÒ¾ÈÇÑ ÀÚ±ØÀÇ º´Àû ÁýÂø, ÀÚ±ØÀ» ÇÇÇϱâ À§ÇÑ º°µµÀÇ ³ë·Â).
5) Conduct disturbance (Çൿ Àå¾Ö):
1) Hyperkinetic(hyperactivity) Reaction (È°µ¿ÀÇ °ú¹Î¹ÝÀÀ): Highly distractive (°íµµÀÇ »ê¸¸), restlessness (ħÂøÁö ¸øÇÔ), constant motor activity (ºÎ´ÜÇÑ Çൿ)
2) Unsocialized aggressive reaction (ºñ»ç±³È µÈ Àû±ØÀû ¹ÝÀÀ): destructive, hostle disobedience (Æı«Àû, Àû´ëÀû ºÒ¼øÁ¾)°ú cruelity (ÀÜÀμº)
3) Group deliquen reaction (±×·ì Ÿ¸ ¹ÝÀÀ): Unsocialized behabior carried on in correct with a gang and in conformity with the gang's deviant norms
1. Principles in Child Counseling (À¯³â »ó´ãÀÇ ¿ø¸®)
1) A chile is a complete and wholesom human being
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